Penulis : Unknown on Monday, February 11, 2013 | 7:47 PM
Monday, February 11, 2013
The first time I saw his face was on a blog; it was the entertainment stories as usual so I just played through the blog and read nothing about him. The second time was that same blog...this time it was his wedding pictures. Yet again, I did not bother to read anything about him so I just satisfied my sense of sight and enjoyed the beautiful wedding pictures. The third time I saw him was also on the internet; this time it was the arrival of his baby. I just muttered "congrats to them" in my mind and went onto the next post. I knew he was well recognized, I knew the name and I also knew he was passionate about what he was doing but one thing I never knew until yesterday was that Cobhams Asuquo was.....BLIND.
My very close friends know I usually don't go to bed early (like today again); I search the web for more knowledge and to keep abreast with what's going on in the world. Yesterday was not an exception. While browsing through the internet, I noticed a TEDx video and scrolled past it without even blinking. It was like a disease that had gone viral because almost every site I visit regularly had the same video uploaded; what was this video? The Gift of Blindness by Cobhams Asuquo. I was wondering what he will be saying about blindness so finally I decided to watch the video (1st time I opened a post about him after ignoring him so many times). How glad I was that I watched that video because it stirred up something in me, I just couldn't stop saying "WOW". It was one of such videos that you have a re-think about yourself, such times when you ask yourself "so what is limiting me"? What is the challenge? Why can't I achieve this goal? Infact so many where, what, how, when and why questions just sprang up in my head. And next thing I thought about YOU, yes you reading this article now. I thought someone would benefit from this video as I did. For Cobhams, he saw an ability in a disability; he took advantage of a disadvantage; he turned an excuse into a determination to succeed. He chose to break the limitations of blindness, He chose to Maximise His Potentials, He chose to succeed. See the video below.
From the topic to the composure, to the sense of humour, to the vocal eloquency with which Cobhams spoke; everything was just superb. I was so impressed by the title he chose "The Gift of Blindness", he saw it as a gift. AH!!! Some people have their five senses functioning well with both hands and legs very strong and yet have chosen to tag themselves as beggars on the streets. But here is someone who had every reason to give an excuse for failure but chose not to. Life throws so many challenges at us at different stages in our life; but I can imagine being born blind and how he started facing his own challenge right from birth. If you ever find a path in life without challenges, it probably means that the path leads nowhere; only paths leading somewhere has challenges. Cobhams found that path and conquered every limitation that stood in his way; he is a proof that it is not about what happens to you but what matters is how you see it and what you do after that. These challenges appear to be limitations (notice I used the word appear, which means they're there to shake you up/to put fear in you/to discourage you; but in reality they're stepping stones to your success) in your path; your determination to break these limitations is what propels you closer to achieving your goal. Every time you rise above a limitation, you're taking giant strides, climbing up, riding on eagles wings and soaring higher. In our society, the blind, lame, deaf, are usually objects of sympathy; people have pity on them because it looks like they cannot function to maximum potentiality because of the impairment of one of the five senses. There is an "eh ya" or "sorry" when you hear he/she is blind; literally meaning he cannot function normal but with Cobhams, the story is different (in his words "pesin wey we dey feel sorry for no dey feel sorry for himself"). He never for once felt he was disadvantaged, he saw it as an advantage and today he is s an award-winning musician, producer, and songwriter. So today, be encouraged; be inspired, be motivated, let something stir up in you, be challenged, break every limitation in your way, NEVER make excuses (read my article on Excuses Are Life's Predators HERE) cos they rob you of your vision and focus. DON'T loose focus, set your eyes on the goal, be blind to every distraction, be determined to keep pressing on irrespective of anything that stands in your way. Choose to be a LIMIT BREAKER, Conquer your world and Succeed aaaaaaalllllllll the way :) XX Lynn
Penulis : Unknown on Thursday, January 24, 2013 | 7:09 PM
Thursday, January 24, 2013
HAPPY BIRTHDAY to http://lynnville.blogspot.co.uk. It was 365 days ago I started this blog. I'm grateful to God for everything. I'm grateful for the challenges in consistency, getting the inspiration to write, knowing what to write and finally writing the articles. It was not east combining full time work and keeping up with blogging consistently plus I'm the Admin officer in my Cell Group in church which means I handle a lot of paperwork and updates online. How then was all these possible?
Zechariah 4:6 - So he said to me, “This is the word of the Lord to Lynda Omerekpe: ‘Not by might nor by power, but by my Spirit,’ says the Lord Almighty.
Indeed, it was all by HIS grace, HIS strength, His wisdom, His spirit. Some nights I sleep on top of my laptop. Infact I'm currenty blogging at 01:41am after I slept off on my laptop trying to update my cell attendance register online. Hhhmmm, I love it that I'm using my youth for a purpose, to affect my world and making an impact in every little way I can. So the question is HOW DID IT ALL START?
I am the first child in a family of 6 (surpised? loll, don't be); so I grew up being a care-taker. I had to look out for my younger ones, lead by example, be responsible etc, which gave me a head-start into encouraging others. I usually find myself trying to encourage people - it became my passion. When I started using Blackberry sometime in 2009 (b4 the whole BB craze) I decided to send out daily devotions every morning. Trust me, a lot of people were mad at me for broadcasting rubbish(what they called the devotions) and waking them up in the morning; but still there were a few who appreciated it and will even complain if I sent it late cos they use it every morning and waited for me to send it. I continued doing this (i didn't get discouraged cos some people didn't accept it).
LESSON 1: Not every one will appreciate/accept/encourage you when you decide to follow a dream/passion. Don't get discouraged...keep pressing on
After one year, people actually started adding me on BB especially because of these messages. I was like "wow"...for real? I was even moved to do more. Sometimes when people ask for my pin, I actually give them a warning notice that they will receive early morning messages which may wake them up when they're snoring. OK, fast forward... BellaNaija is one of the blogs I stalk read and I see articles written by others featured on the blog. I knew I loved to write so I decided to write a article and send to BellaNaija to be featured on the blog. I did write the article and then when I opened my laptop to send the email, something woke up inside of me (I'll say it was the holyspirit). It was a voice asking me why I was sending my article to another blog when I can actually have my blog; not just that...it will be an avenue to still encourage people since I was leaving BB soon. It was funny to me in a way cos a friend of mine Yemisi ofsisiyemmie.com once told me to start a fashion blog since I like to dress up (wahala na to find camera man wey go take my pishure every day) so starting a blog was not in any way close to my goals for 2012. Meanwhile all my friends started blogs the year before and I was like, "I no get strength jare". But that particular day, those words were so strong in my spirit and I knew it was time for me to start a blog.
LESSON 2: Don't do something because everybody is doing it or because someone forced you to do it... you'll get tired of doing it. Do it because it is something you love, if not you will stop half way and blame people for it.
When I started, I wrote my first article because of the song "I'll be there" by Tiffany Evans. I always put that song on repeat when I'm in the shower and all I think of while it plays is how I can be of help to some one out there; how I can tell someone that I'll be there if they ever needed me. I write from my heart; I was not born a writer but because I have the passion to reach others, God fills my heart with what to say. I was working part-time when I started but after 2 months, I got a full time job and "oh boy", blogging became a challenge. I got challenged when a reader was the one checking up on me and asking when I will be posting an article after more than one week. Now I try as much as possible to update my blog every week. Also, I almost got discouraged cos there may be an article that there will be only one comment. But guess what? I encouraged myself and I said "if it was only one person that this article encouraged today, then I am fulfilled". But sometimes the comments just roll and I am grateful to all of you who have stopped by to drop a word. You have encouraged me to write even more when I felt discouraged. Thank you.
LESSON 3: In the path of destiny, the road is not always smooth, there will be obstacles to challenge you. How passionate are you about that dream to follow it through even in the midst of challenges? You will be forced to make excuses or to use the easiest route of escape but DON'T. Instead, be persistent, consistent and focused. Tough people always get through. Don't forget, the light can only shine in the dark. Without darkness, your light will not be seen. Challenges come for your promotion.
To cut the long story short...[I had no ides this post will be long, ma bi nu (sorry)]
After so many months of typing,editing, posting and replying comments; I can say it has been a wonderful journey. From trying to send my article to be featured on Bella Naija, today my blog is 1 year old and has been featured in Jewels Magazine in Nigeria. The article featured in Jewels was "If you won't make her a wife, then don't make her a mother" Pls read itHERE, this article has been in popular post since April 2012 so I'm sure you'll love it.
Proud of myself *winks* see my innocent pix
Two other articles have been featured on FemmeLounge, read it HERE and will be featured in many more places. Remember my article on Success Is A Process, you can read it HERE, I can CONFIDENTLY tell you that it is an article you will want to read and indeed I'm an example. I started this blog with Me, Myself and I but as at today, I have written 100 articles (96 in 2012 & 4 in 2013) with 56 lovely followers who have also encouraged me in one way or the other. A BIG THANKS to you all, I love you so much. You are the reason I keep blogging and God will bless you for your support.
LESSON 4: Never Give up...Galatians 6:9 - And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not. So expect more from LynnVille, there will be greater news for you by the time we celebrate the 2nd anniversary cos this chic aint gon' faint or give up. Infact, the journey just started.
Dancie Dance Dance!!! Thanking God for the journey so far and for much more to come :)
PS: Dancing is my hubby so....I'm thinking of doing a dance video on my birthday 15th February. Yay or Nay? (I'm shy oh, hope I pull through with this one)
Goodmorning sweeties... I'm going to bed now @ 03:07am.
Penulis : Unknown on Tuesday, October 2, 2012 | 12:59 PM
Tuesday, October 2, 2012
Just few days ago, a friend posted a picture of Denzel Washington on Facebook and I admired the swag and poise of the gentleman. The 57 year old two-time Oscar winner and box-office giant sure knows how to give his audience a reason to look forward to his movies…he’s too good. So Denzel is featured in the October edition of GQ Magazine; he granted GQ an interview where he spoke extensively about himself, family, work etc. There was a part of his interview which I found really inspiring and thought to share it with my readers..
GQ: Do you have any code you live by?
Denzel: I read from the Bible every day, and I read myDaily Word.I read something great yesterday. It said, "Don't aspire to make a living. Aspire to make a difference."
GQ: If you had one thing to say to African-American readers ofGQ,what would you say?
Denzel: Take responsibility. One of the things that saddens me the most about my people is fathers that don't take care of their sons and daughters. And you can't blame that on The Man or getting frisked. Take responsibility. Look in the mirror and say, "What can I do better?" There is opportunity; you can make it. Whatever it is that you choose, be the best at it. You have an African-American president. You can do it. But take responsibility. Put your slippers way under your bed so when you get up in the morning, you have to get on your knees to find them. And while you're down there, start your day with prayer. Ask for wisdom. Ask for understanding. I'm not telling you what religion to be, but work on your spirit. You know, mind, body, and spirit. Imagine—work the brain muscle. Keep the body in tune—it's your temple. All things in moderation. Continue to search. That's the best part of life for me—continue to try to be the best man.
After reading these lines, I was like…WOW! Sometimes you see a celebrity or a famous person and all you can see at that time is the expensive clothes they wear, posh cars they ride and the luxurious homes they live in. And then some people go on to say so many nasty things about them. But in reality, most of these people did not teleport from zeros to heroes in a twinkling of an eye. They did not just sleep one night and wake up the other day to become Oscar winners, a thousand times NO. Some people actually want to be spoon-fed from toddler stage till when they get to 30 years. Even at that age, some people still don’t know their left from their right. They blame mum, dad, government, or something else for where they are today cos they don't want to take responsibility for themselves.
What am I trying to say? Decide to be THE BEST version of YOU in whatever field you find yourself. If you want to be a mechanic-be a mechanic with a difference; be a plumber with a difference; a lawyer, banker, doctor, engineer, accountant with a difference. Wake up in the morning and decide that you’ll head out to be productive irrespective of what may come your way. And, YES…it’s not easy. Wake Up! Life is not a bed of roses, you gotta make your bed the way you want to lie on it. Think of the kinda life you want to live in the future and start digging your foundation today. Challenges will come, obstacles will stand in your way, not everyone will be there for you, you may not always get what you want; but just keep doing what you know how to do best. Keep at it and with time, it could be our face on GQ magazine someday. Who knows?
I like the part where he said “Put your slippers way under your bed so when you get up in the morning, you have to get on your knees to find them. And while you're down there, start your day with prayer”. That is a habit I practice. What Denzel’s trying to say is “step out of your comfort zone”. Sometimes you need to give yourself a lil’ push. If you put your slippers right in front of your bed, you know it’ll be easy for u to just slip your feet inside. But when it’s under the bed, you’ll have to bend down and bring it out before slipping it on. And while you're down there, start your day with prayer. When you step out of your comfort zone, there’s always an uncertainty and fear of what will happen but while in that position…PRAY. Don't say you're waiting for God to do something; He's waiting for you to start something and He'll bless you. He has said He'll bless the works of your hands; if you don't want to do any work then there's nothing for Him to bless.
Dare to be the best in your job, school, business. Work with excellence and diligence; decide to do more than you’re required of, go the extra mile, add a lil’ touch of class to everything you do, leave a mark and let the world know that YOU’RE THE BEST THAT CAN EVER EXIST.
Penulis : Unknown on Tuesday, September 4, 2012 | 4:08 PM
Tuesday, September 4, 2012
It was that time of the night, cozy and chilly, snuggling up in my bed. I had taken the perfect position, curled up just like a baby under the warm duvet and ready to drift off to the fantasy world. Oops...I forgot to turn off the light; aarrgghh. I just wished I had a bedside switch or the string you pull to turn the light on and off. I couldn't even imagine getting up from that comfortable position. No way..."I said to myself". I closed my eyes and shut them very tight hoping that soon I will be fast asleep and not even notice that the light was on. It didn't help cos I continued tossing and turning; waking up at intervals until I grudgingly stood up from the bed and turned the light off. After that, I didn't even realise how I slept off till the next morning.
There's something about getting too comfortable with a particular position or place. You enjoy it so much that you don't want to leave; you're so engrossed and buried so deep that you don't feel there is a need to go elsewhere. This position is your comfort zone, a place or situation where you feel at ease and without stress. In this position, you don't want to stress yourself (just as I didn't want to get up from the bed), you just want to remain in that place where you don't have to handle more responsibilities. Do you know what your comfort zone does to you? It kills your zeal to aim high, it makes you reluctant to do anything other than what you are already used to, it takes away your motivating factor and driving force. Some people find themselves in this position because they are scared of what will happen on the other side; but you will never know what will happen till you step out of that comfort zone.
There are some people who have vowed in their heart that they have reached their final destination and will not go more than where they are today. God wishes above all things that you prosper....and His prosperity is not a stagnant one; its an upward and forward life. So why do you want to put a limit to how far you want to go? He doesn't want you to stay in one position for a long time.
Deuteronomy 2:3 - ye have encompassed this mountain long enough; turn ye northwards
Have you not stayed there long enough? Are you not tired of being in that position? Have you gotten too comfortable and relaxed that you've forgotten you're a moving train? It's time to move forward. Challenge yourself, think outside the box, do something you've never done before. I'm also speaking to myself cos I'm supposed to take a professional course but I've been moving the start date. If you have a desire to get to a particular place in life, keep pursuing it irrespective of what today may look like. Just keep pushing your way through, don't be discouraged by the fear of uncertainty or failure. Just keep moving forward cos greater things await you outside your comfort zone. All you have to do is STEP OUT and embrace greatness.
Penulis : Unknown on Tuesday, May 8, 2012 | 12:55 PM
Tuesday, May 8, 2012
Success, a common word we hear everyday. A word that stirs and scares people, some are stirred up by the thought of being successful while others are scared of success because of the challenges and tough decisions involved. Some parents have even named their kids ‘Success’ so that the child can be successful in future (can’t say if it works or not) and some people have success stickers on their cars, doors, and other places with the belief that it guarantees success (not so sure about this too but it depends on how strong your faith is in what you believe in). Everybody wants to succeed in life but how you reach that goal depends on what success means to you. What really is SUCCESS? There are different definitions and explanations of what success is. But I've come to realize that success means different things to different people and this also forms the basis of their drive towards achieving success. I conducted a research and I got a few details about what different people think about success.
Okechukwu Ofili (Motivational speaker, success coach and author) says... Success is doing what you love and making a living out of it. That is success to me. What drives me is the fact that many people are not tapping into their hidden potentials. And my goal is to help them realize their hidden talent either via my words or speaking. Also I am driven to help make the world a better place. I feel that too many people are too focused on getting to heaven, so much so they forget that for some people earth is like hell. My goal is to help (to the best of my ability) alleviate the sufferings of the environment around me.
Myne Whitman (author and founder of the Naija Stories community for Nigerian writers) says... my definition of success is contentment. It means being able to make a business of what you love doing and being happy doing it. It is equally important that you can touch other lives and positively affect the dreams of those coming after you. One thing I have learned in the time since my first book is that, it is essential to be able to balance work and life, and keep your feet on the ground even after success comes.
Bisi Onasanya (CEO/GMB First Bank Nigeria) says...Success is not getting a good job or the promotion but majorly what you do with the opportunity given to you.
Samuel Ekundayo a.k.a Le dynamique professeur (Motivational speaker & life coach) says... Success to me in simple terms means fulfillment. It is not a destination but a journey. It is not an attainment but a consistent effort all through a man's life. It is not limited to an event; it is a life-style. As such, only those with a sense of purpose can be successful, because they are the only ones who know what fulfillment means.
From my research, I found something they all had in common which is affecting other people positively. As individuals, we have different goals and dreams. Achieving these goals becomes the driving force for success but when we have achieved all these things without affecting one person positively, then the success is incomplete. This goes to show that success is not just about yourself but about making the world a better place while enjoying life. Unfortunately, many people have defined success as having wealth and fame; some think it’s about acquiring luxury and letting people know you have arrived. Success goes beyond money and material acquisitions; it is not just about what you can do for yourself alone but what you can do to make the world a better place. We should think of leaving a mark on the face of the earth as a result of our accomplishments, making use of opportunities to cause positive impact in the lives of other people. To succeed you need to have a bigger picture, you should have a farther view of life and think globally not locally. Have a mindset that envisions greatness, a heart that can reach out to others and a goal to remain focused on the things that matter.
You need to understand what it really means and know how to get there. There must be a personal conviction that motivates you to do the things you do. If you dream about success and do not have a drive or a force that compels you to move towards achieving it, then you need to redefine what success really means to you.
Success is a process, it will take you through different stages in life; from one level to another and slowly you’ll climb to the peak. Don’t be scared of the challenges you’ll face in the process instead let it motivate you to do greater things. Always believe you can do it. Nina Ijere, (business success coach & International speaker) says… Believing in yourself is a vital ingredient in the pursuit of good success. Don't wait for anyone to do it for you, do yourself a favor and start today to believe in yourself cos the only thing that can limit you is yourself. Follow these steps on HOW TO LIVE A SUCCESSFUL LIFE
Finally, you are not successful until you have added value to someone’s life.
PS: You can visit the sites of these success motivators from the links below:
Penulis : Unknown on Tuesday, April 24, 2012 | 7:00 PM
Tuesday, April 24, 2012
My pastor always says, ‘if you can see it, then you can have it’ and no doubt; this is absolutely true. Before anything can become, you must first give birth to it within for it to manifest on the outside. While going through LIB, I came across a letter Oprah Winfrey wrote to her 19 year-old-self titled “The beautiful brown-skinned girl”. It was really inspiring that at 19 she could picture the kind of future she wanted and even though she faced tough times, she still had a clear picture of being a successful woman. Read the letter below.
Dear beautiful brown-skinned girl,
I look into your eyes and see the light and hope of myself. In this photo you are just about to turn 20, posing outside the television station where you were recently hired as a reporter. You’re proud of yourself for getting the job, but uncertain you’ll be able to manage all your college classes before 1 and arrive at the station by 1:30 for a full day’s work. Even so, your biggest concern is how to manage your love life with Bubba. Yes, you are dating someone named Bubba
Oprah & her 19-year-old-self
On this day you’ve brought him to the station to see where you work, hoping he’ll be proud, too. He seems less than impressed. The truth is, he’s intimidated. You don’t know this, though, because you can see yourself only through his eyes. A lesson you will have to learn again and again: to see yourself with your own eyes, to love yourself from your own heart.You’ve spent too many days and years trying to please others and be what they wanted you to be. You will have to learn that the wounds of your past—rape, molestation, whippings for “stepping out of place,” and not being allowed to show anger or cry afterward—damaged your self-esteem. Yet through it all, you’ve held on to a belief in God and God’s belief in you.That will be your single greatest gift: knowing there is a power greater than yourself and trusting that Force to guide you.
The trajectory of your life changed the day you answered the call from Chris Clark, the news director at WLAC-TV. Your response was ignited by the words of your then-favorite Bible verse, Philippians 3:14. “I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus.” Knowing there is a “high calling” is what will sustain and fulfill you. From where I sit now, viewing your journey, there are few regrets. Only months before this picture was taken, you wrote a poem about a “woman becoming.” Even then you understood that success was a process and that moving with the flow of life and not against it would be your greatest achievement.
Love you deeply,
Oprah
Now, the question is what future can you picture? I like the part she said “knowing that there is a high calling”. Have you realised that there is a higher calling for you? Or do you think this is all there is to life? Our lives should be upward and forward, pressing on to greater goals and making an impact in our generation. A common interview question that is always asked is “where do you see yourself in 5 years?” What would you be doing 1825 days from now? What improvements and changes would have happened in your life? Would there be positive impacts from you to affect your environment positively? What future have you pictured for yourself? Just before writing this article I was challenged by a friend who just registered an NGO MENTAL HEALTH INITIATIVE FOR AFRICA; I was mostly impressed that she was not focusing on Nigeria but on Africa as a whole and I can only imagine how big she will be in 5 years or more.
Some people say it’s best to take the days as they come but I think you need to plan for the days or else things will take you by surprise when you least expect it. The day opportunity knocks on your doorstep, will you be prepared to make use of it? On the day of opportunity, it will be too late to prepare. That is why you need to position yourself for what lies ahead. Project yourself into the future and start seeing a picture of who you want to be and what you want to do. Don’t think it’s too late to start, NO…wherever you may be in life you can decide to make a change starting from today. No one can live your life better than you can, so decide to live it to the fullest and take a hold of your future. I know a guy who has a picture of his Dream Home on his office wall and people asked him…Why is it there? What is it for? Do you think you can afford that? And this was his reply, “I just smile…I smile because that picture motivates me to work harder at my OFILISPEAKS business and every time I stare at that picture, I can visualize my future family relaxing and enjoying LIFE to the fullest and I keep going and I stay motivated”.
You can also have a picture of where you want to be and put it on your wall. I did that too, I write out my visions and place them on my bedside so that once I wake up every morning I read it and picture myself in that future and also pray with it cos God will only take you as far as you are willing to go. Another quote by my pastor, “the extent of your vision is the boundary of your blessing”. This means that how far you can see will determine how far God can take you. So I’ll ask you again….WHAT FUTURE CAN YOU PICTURE? WHAT TYPE OF FUTURE DO YOU WANT TO FEATURE IN?
PS: Pls click HERE to LIKE the Mental Health Initiative for Africa page on Facebook.
Penulis : Unknown on Friday, March 23, 2012 | 8:09 AM
Friday, March 23, 2012
Hey peeps, TGIF...guess you’re excited about the weekend, same here. Anyways, let's go straight to the point. So I was scanning through my mailbox yesterday, I decided to open mails from 2010 backwards and look through the content know if any of them was still relevant or not. It’s always advisable to do a review once in a while to create space for new mails and get rid of the junks and unwanted stuff. During my review I stumbled onto one of those forwarded office mails, it was a poem by Maya Angelou titled HATERS. Hhhmm, interesting so i read through it again and just smiled cos it brought back old memories. I’m not going to share the memories with you but i’m gonna drop some advice.
At some point in our lives, there will be someone or some people who will not like you (after secondary school, it stuck in my head) and you don’t have to cry or get worried about people not liking you as long as you know you haven’t done anything wrong to them. There are people who just don’t like to see good things about others, they hear about your progress or success and they scoff, hiss and make faces (who cares). They say negative words to deliberately hurt or humiliate others, and derive joy in seeing people sad. They go about spreading false news about people just to bring them down and elevate themselves. Some people just don’t want to see you happy or smiling, they look for every little wrong you’ve done in a bid to spread the news and cause you shame. There are so many things haters do and the most painful is that they turn out to be people you least expected, people you have confided in and people you never expected to treat you with disdain. The problem is not about having haters cos they will always be there but the most important thing is to rise above them.
If they create time to talk about you, it means you’re important so don’t let their false words or stories affect you. They only see the glory and the beauty on the outside, they don’t know what happened inside and what you went through to get to where you are today. Don’t give them the joy they seek by sulking, crying and feeling bad...NO...instead hit them hard with the best you have inside of you. Determine to rise above those words by being your best, outdo your past, stay on track and keep going higher. Responding to them means reducing yourself to their low esteem and crumpled intellect, only someone with low self-esteem and confidence will want to bring others down in order to rise up, they are the only ones who want to excel at the expense of someone else’s joy. Don’t let them. So whatever you do, don’t let a hater stop you cos they can't stand you when you STAND STRONG.
A HATER by Maya Angelou
A hater is someone who is jealous and envious and spends all their time trying to make you look small so they can look tall.
They are very negative people to say the least. Nothing is ever good enough!
When you make your mark, you will always attract some haters...
That's why you have to be careful with whom you share your blessings and your dreams, because some folk can't handle seeing you blessed...
It's dangerous to be like somebody else... If God wanted you to be like somebody else, He would have given you what He gave them! Right?
You never know what people have gone through to get what they have... The problem I have with haters is that they see my glory, but they don't know my story... If the grass looks greener on the other side of the fence, you can rest assured that the water bill is higher there too!
We've all got some haters among us!
Some people envy you because you can: a) Have a relationship with God b) Light up a room when you walk in c) Start your own business d) Tell a man / woman to hit the curb (if he / she isn't about the right thing) e) Raise your children without both parent being in the home
Haters can't stand to see you happy. Haters will never want to see you succeed.
Most of our haters are people who are supposed to be on our side.
How do you handle your undercover haters?
You can handle these haters by:
1. Knowing who you are & who your true friends are (VERY IMPORTANT!!!) 2. Having a purpose to your life: Purpose does not mean having a job. You can have a job and still be unfulfilled. A purpose is having a clear sense of what God has called you to be. Your purpose is not defined by what others think about you. 3. By remembering what you have is by divine prerogative and not human manipulation. Fulfill your dreams! You only have one life to live...when its your time to leave this earth, you 'want' to be able to say, 'I've lived my life and fulfilled 'my' dreams,... Now I'm ready to go HOME!
When God gives you favor, you can tell your haters, 'Don't look at me...Look at Who is in charge of me....'
Penulis : Unknown on Wednesday, March 21, 2012 | 5:12 AM
Wednesday, March 21, 2012
Did I hear someone say I want to be the best? Did he/she just say I want to make it to the top? Ok, this article is exactly what you need. It’s funny how sometimes during an examination you hear someone say things like "I don't need an A, I just wish I can get a B or C". I always tell such people that if you aim for a C, you'll limit yourself to studying towards a C and then after the exam, you may even get a D. But if you aim for an A, you'll push yourself outside your comfort zone, beyond every limitation and work hard to get an A and you'll be amazed at the score you get. Maybe you aimed for a score of 75 or 80 but because you were determined to be an A-student, you accomplished more than you expected and instead of 75 or 80, you actually got 96. Some people have accepted to be average but i know you…yes you reading this right now; I know you want an "A" not just in your academics or job but also in every aspect of your life. Aim high, strive for excellence and give your best shot to everything that comes your way. Here are some strategies for achieving excellence:
1.THINK BIG. Dream it, see it and pursue it.
Set goals and targets
Make a to-do-list and follow it strictly so you don’t forget anything
Set your priorities right and know which is most and least important (first things first)
NEVER procrastinate (you may eventually not do that thing)
No excuses – Be determined and focused
Have the i-can-do-it mentality cos you can do anything if you’re determined
Don’t accept defeat…it’s ok to fail but dust yourself up and try again
Do something: don’t just sit and wait for things to happen cos nothing will move until you move. Newton’s Law of Motion states that every object in a state of rest remains in that position until an external force is applied to it. So what are you waiting for?
Be diligent in all things: work as though you own the company; don’t work with eye service instead give it your best shot and watch yourself grow faster than you think. Diligence is a spring board to greater heights cos if you are faithful in little…more will be committed into your hands. Proverbs 22:29 - Seest thou a man diligent in his work, he shall stand before kings.
Dare to be different: In everything and everyway don’t try to fit into the crowd cos you were made to stand out. Don’t settle for the status quo…there’s a higher level.
Relax: Whatever you do, no matter how busy you get or how time-consuming your job is, find time to rest and relax your body. You’ll need to stay fit and healthy to do the job.
Measure your progress with time: this is very important because you need to know how far you have gone and what things you have accomplished so far. If you don't measure your progress, it means you don't expect to grow.
Write down all your plans and place it before God cos you need him to achieve every form of excellence. Infact, He is the definition of excellence.
I hope these strategies will help you focus on the path of excellence.
Penulis : Unknown on Friday, March 16, 2012 | 1:35 PM
Friday, March 16, 2012
Hey peeps, how are y'all doing? TGIF...sure you're happy its weekend again so you can get back those few hours of sleep that work stole from you and spend time with loved ones. Some people have it all planned out, maybe a romantic dinner with bf/gf or wifey/hubby; or a blind date with that guy/girl you've been chatting with on BB while some are chilling indoors like my humble self, having a cozy and sweet romantic dinner with ma laptop (lol).
So, as a professional stalker (Yes I am, find out HERE) I came across this very funny picture in one of the blogs I stalked today. My friend and I just couldn't stop laughing, how possible is it to eat rice with chopsticks? Definitely not possible, it's like going to fetch water with a basket. The funny part was in the end when Mr. Lecturer gave up and decided to use fork as plan B but still achieved the desired goal which was eating the rice.
Now after my laughing session, I took a second look and I thought to myself...there's actually a lesson to learn in this. Often times in life, we find out that we really want to do something and keep trying all possible means to achieve that goal but all to no avail. It might not be too glaring but the lesson I want to point out from this picture is that though you try to do something and it fails over and over again, don't quit. Repeat the process again and again and again but if it still proves tough then tackle it with another strategy but no matter what, don't give up. Even though the picture says "give up", I understood that last step to mean that however you do it (not illegally oo), don't let anything stop you. If plan A doesn't work, there are 25 other letters in the alphabets so if chopsticks strategy (Plan A) doesn't work...use the fork (Plan B, C, D, E etc) but no matter what happens, make sure the rice gets into your stomach (make sure you achieve that dream).
Penulis : Unknown on Wednesday, March 7, 2012 | 2:44 AM
Wednesday, March 7, 2012
Just like a log of wood, he lay still on his bed; not moving his body or even blinking an eye, it seemed as though the earth stood still under his roof. The phone rang, but NO-he wouldn’t pick up; the mail came in, but he didn’t bother to check what was inside. Except for the TV which played all through the night till the next day, his apartment was quiet like a graveyard. The voice of the newscasters from BBC echoed in his head as they read out the headlines over again. Hearing those words again were like torture to him as he reminisced on the times spent in Canary Wharf, blazing through Canada-Square for lunch at 2pm and the beautiful view of the fountain from the 22nd floor of his office. It was a bitter moment, he didn’t see it coming; he didn’t believe he was made redundant. There were bills to pay, the mortgage, electricity, gas, internet, water bills, car insurance, council tax, telephone bills, etc and the worst of all was that he just took an overdraft from his bank. Life seemed to have paused for Jide.
Does this sound like what you’re going through? Do you feel like your life has paused and you are locked up in a shell? Do you feel like you’re standing at the edge of a cliff? I have good news for you; you may not have seen it coming but God did and He has made an escape way for you. So don’t just lie/sit down there doing nothing, it’s time to get up. You won’t be able to look ahead if you’re sitting and pondering over the situation. People may have talked about the difficulty in the economy, the increase in tax and the speed with which the price of every commodity has increased. All of that doesn’t matter cos the economy doesn’t define your present situation. What people say does not count, what counts is what you say cos what you say is what you get. You’ve got to make a change and if you don’t make a move…nothing will change. Believe that there’s something better ahead of you and trust God completely cos when He takes you to a cliff, He either gives you wings to fly or He’ll make a safe landing for you. But first, you have to GET UP.
LYRICS
Verse 1.
Layin' low, rest and pause,
Sleeping long, slow motion
Gonna do, shoulda, coulda
Woulda done, excuses
What are you afraid of?
Don't you know what you're made of?
One of God's greatest creations
Take this invitation now
Chorus
Get up, 'cause you can't stop
Get up, got a lot to do
24 hours, almost gone
Get up, don't sit back
Get up, if you wanna get there
Clocks don't stop and time won't wait
Verse 2
He said, she said, they said, what do you say?
It's your dreams, your choice, our time, your life
Penulis : Unknown on Saturday, March 3, 2012 | 3:01 AM
Saturday, March 3, 2012
Hey peeps, its weekend again and i'm sure everyone's excited to get some rest from thebusy week gone-by. While going through some blogs yesterday, i came across this story. I didn't want to blog about it but today i felt the need to and i'll explain why after you read the story -19 year old Nigerian teen found guilty of murder in the UK.
On 25 March 2010, 17 year old Victoria Osoteku armed a 20-strong mob who ‘hunted down’ and hacked to death a15-year-old boy at a railway and underground station in front of rush-hour commuters. Sofyen Belamouadden was punched, kicked and stabbed to death in a ‘brutal and merciless murder’ planned on Facebook after a feud between pupils from two rival schools erupted into violence. Victoria was the one who bought the knife that was used to stab Sofyen, and she was also captured on CCTV kicking Sofyen in the head before running off, leaving him to bleed to death. Victoria, now 19, has been convicted of manslaughter and conspiracy to cause grievous bodily harm after a five-month trial at the Old Bailey and faces jail time. Other teens convicted of Sofyen's murder: Adonis Akra(18), Samuel Roberts(19), Femi Oderinwale(18), Obi Nwokeh(19), Christopher Omoregrie(18), Samson Odegbune(18).
Born to Nigerian parents in Peckham, South-East London, Osoteku’s upbringing was deeply troubled. At the age of two, her father Abiodun took her and her three-year-old sister away from their drug addict mother Ebunoluwa, who has serious mental health issues and has been sectioned a number of times. For a number of years, she was shunted between her aunt and a hostel before her father, a painter and decorator, remarried when she was five. Osoteku told the jury that she suffered daily beatings at the hands of her stepmother. At the age of eight she was taken into care and placed with foster parents. Classmates described her as a bully who was always egging others on. One said: ‘Victoria was at the forefront – she was a bit of a bully.’ But the schoolgirl claimed to be a kind person. On her internet profile, she wrote in poorly spelt English: "a black indpendent women who cares for all my bedrins and all fam. but every 1 is ke fam to me. Im a joka thats loves a joka and im rely kind and fast to kick wid".
Back to my reason for blogging about this. After i read the story, i proceeded to the comments. Wow, 135 comments...what are they saying? So many people blamed the parents for bringing her up in the western society, for not training up the child the way she should go while others were very pissed with the fact these culprits are only teenagers. Not even one of them is up to 20 (smh) and most shocking they were all Nigerians except two people. It got me thinking, are parents really responsible for the violent actions their children carry out? In a bid to give their children the best education, has sending them outside the shores of their motherland made them bad parents? Is there an excuse for why a person chooses to live a bad/good life? Who is to blame? Parents or the kids?
In my honest opinion, i do not think parents are 100% guilty; yeah the bible admonishes parents to train up a child in the way he/she should go and when he is old he will not depart from it. But every individual has his own choice to make in life, no matter how your parents have brought you up. So many times you see a very good christian home where the parents have done everything possible to give their kids the best but somehow these kids still do otherwise. After the age of 16, every human being born on earth knows the difference between good and evil and whatever you choose to do will define who you'll turn out to be. Parents will do their best for you, they will send you to school but will not live in the boarding house with you, they don't go for lectures with you and don't hang out with you. The best they can do from home is to pray for you and send money when you need it. It also baffles me that most people blame the life in UK for this predicament; but i'll tell you that in this same country, i have seen teenagers who work while studying and try to be something in life for themselves and their families. Out of 10 British kids, only 4 grew up in a complete home, the rest grew up with single parents but have decided to not allow that to jeopardise their future. The location where someone grew up shouldn't be an excuse to mess up, Peckham or Kensington; ajegunle or Banana Republic; the ghetto (slum) or Buckingham Palace, golden spoon or rubber spoon...it doesn't matter. Victoria's childhood may have been rough but irrespective of all that happened to her, i think something good would have still sprang up from such a beautiful girl. When it comes to taking someone's life or inflicting pains on others, it ceases to be a situation to blame parents cos you have a choice to be good or bad. No one decides that for you.
Excuse not good enough.
To the teenagers reading this, you can be different, choose to be good and don't allow your environment influence you. Keep friends who will add value to your life and learn to walk away from the ones who don't.
To the parents reading this, pls make out time to be part and parcel of your children's life. Do all it takes to be their best friend so that they can let you in on everything that happens in their life. That way you will be able to help them take out the shaft from the grains. Don't spoil them with money, when you lavish them with so much luxury they will do anything to make sure they keep up with that standard of living.
So my dear readers, let's discuss this...who is to blame? The parents or the kids? Or the Nigerian government for not providing quality education for the citizens?
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